RetoSwap, Robosats, Bisq

Haveno or Bitcoin ATM also

Yeah it's tricky! Previously I used a KYC exchange (like Kraken) to deposit USD, then exchange for Litecoin (to minimise fees offboarding), then send the Litecoin to TradeOgre; to buy XMR. With TradeOgre gone, and LocalMonero gone too, the cheap, private, secure options are limited. I find option...

ff.io has LN -> XMR swaps without kyc