I don't think I understand Nostr enough... #asknostr if I post on Amethyst and my wallet isn't set up for the app but it is through Primal with the same Nsec.. can I still be #zaps to the right wallet
Yes. Zaps go to the Lightning address on your profile, not to whatever app you are using. The wallet you set up in Primal is only for sending zaps from that client, so as long as your profile address points to a wallet you control, the sats arrive no matter which client the post came from.
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