it's not an easy decision. you let people in your house and they make a mess, and in the back of your head, you worry that someone will get the government called on you. graf has a name and a face and he lives in trudeau's canada. he is also a retarded alcoholic.

I have a peertube instance. I have never let other users sign up. I was approached by a girl from the kiwi farms pleroma instance and she asked me permission to use it to host movie night streams. I knew I was not prepared for these haunting thoughts and I told her no. then I witnessed her do something really gross with other people in a sick place.

you go on nostr and you ask 12 people permission to be in their house and under normal circumstances most of them don't care enough to say no because the network is small. but they all take a risk on you and every other user. maybe you are braver than me and someday you will stick your neck out for others.