Everyone is trying to be someone or something that they aren't. Grass is greener... If you know what you want or don't want, then you're way ahead of the people who are chasing silly images.

I also think its just an unfortunate misnomer to say assertiveness or dominance is masculine. That presupposes that men should want to dominate others. I don't... All I want is a boat. Anyways, all that stuff is just noise.