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I had this friend who had two older sisters.

When he was 13 his dad’s affair was exposed and his parents got divorced. Blindsiding all the kids and destroying what they thought was a happy family.

Later both his sisters got married and promptly cheated on their husbands destroying their marriages. One even getting pregnant by another man.

We were talking about it one day and I said “isn’t it interesting that both of your sisters cheated before they could be cheated on by the men in their life, as sort of a trauma response to the fathers affair”

He looked at me and was like “I don’t think the two things have anything to do with each other”

I think about that conversation a lot.
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Sean · 17w
The affair had a profound effect on the subconscious mind of the sisters. So sad.
Benking · 17w
Sometimes people repeat pain, not out of choice, but because it’s the only language their subconscious knows in relationships. When trust is shattered in childhood, the mind learns to prioritize control over intimacy, and what stronger control than being the first to betray, rather than the one wh...
zBTCowany BIP110 · 17w
That’s why we need Bitcoin and Catholic Church.
zBTCowany BIP110 · 17w
This is 100% confirmed right statement, I’ve studied similar cases and it’s so fuckin real!
Uvas · 17w
or maybe the sisters were selfish jerks
Becoming B · 17w
If we could only understand just how much our actions effect those around us . . . seen and unseen.
MattA · 17w
most people suck at pattern recognition. a greater number people suck at taking accountability.
Corrado Alvaro · 17w
Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.
Tony Acid · 17w
The truth don't exist, only different perspectives.
JB · 17w
Trauma is usually something you learn is bad and so you don't wish anyone else has to endure it. If you cause trauma you endured you are usually just selfish.
Achilles · 17w
2 PoV. Truth unknown.
vincent · 17w
he's in denial.
TythePhoneGuy · 17w
MOST people are just screwed up and don't know how to keep their pants on once committed in a relationship :( especially, in a world of technology
Monikaco ⚡️BЯΛVӨ MӨПIKΛ 💥 · 17w
Denial is trauma “response” delay awareness 🧐
William ₿ Travis · 17w
It's not just trauma, it's the lessons learned. People have been taught since the 60s that marriage commitments don't matter. What matters is the idea that you deserved to feel loved even if you have to find it with someone you're not married to. In my wife's family, she's only one of two of eight c...
OgFOMK ArTS · 17w
This is why reading the Bible is very important. Too, serious and not understanding that what can happen, has already happened and there is no point in making the same mistakes others made.
Dr. Cassone · 17w
I'm not a big fan of defining ourselves by our early life experiences, subconsciously or not. Pop psychology narratives are highly speculative, but the worse thing is the victimhood motif within the framework of outsourcing of identity onto others. Even if the dynamics are relatively accurate, they'...
renaud · 17w
It is very difficult to be lucid about one’s own family affairs. My sister named her first son the name of our father, with whom she has a very special and complex relationship. She denies it has anything to do with him.
lemon · 17w
I wonder what my blind spots are
Currency of Distrust · 17w
I was engaged to a woman in the past whose father cheated and she’d constantly beg me not to cheat on her. Then, I caught her sleeping with another dude 🤷😅
Irrepressible · 17w
Everyone has choices. They obviously took his horrendous psychological make-up and never addressed it. Interesting to know... you said you "had" a friend.... did he turn out the same? U not close anymore...?
henry · 17w
So what I surmise from what you’re positing is…. bitcoin is about to pump?
BangBitcoin2 · 17w
It’s more likely they chose men they didn’t really love. Terrified to truly invest in a relationship. Yes - a trauma response.
ppatel · 17w
I think when everyone is living in the matrix.....you cannot simply put these things down to the parents behaviour.....maybe it was one factor.
Phil 🇻🇦🇫🇷🎶 · 17w
As a father of a 8yo girl, I know my presence and my behavior with her and my wife is utterly important for her future as a young woman, especially for her future comportment with men.
OmniBitcoin · 17w
He should have ended the sentence at "I don't think"