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I had this friend who had two older sisters.

When he was 13 his dad’s affair was exposed and his parents got divorced. Blindsiding all the kids and destroying what they thought was a happy family.

Later both his sisters got married and promptly cheated on their husbands destroying their marriages. One even getting pregnant by another man.

We were talking about it one day and I said “isn’t it interesting that both of your sisters cheated before they could be cheated on by the men in their life, as sort of a trauma response to the fathers affair”

He looked at me and was like “I don’t think the two things have anything to do with each other”

I think about that conversation a lot.
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Rajesh · 39w
There's past life trauma aswell dude. Sloan Bella, she talks about here https://youtu.be/VYSdOF6XqCg?si=MbiDif7gl75eJBiq
AfterSound · 39w
I’m not a big fan of the terms generational trauma or breaking the cycle because I think they’ve gotten overused as buzz words, but this would qualify.
Sean · 39w
The affair had a profound effect on the subconscious mind of the sisters. So sad.
Benking · 39w
Sometimes people repeat pain, not out of choice, but because it’s the only language their subconscious knows in relationships. When trust is shattered in childhood, the mind learns to prioritize control over intimacy, and what stronger control than being the first to betray, rather than the one wh...
zBTCowany Hardfork · 39w
That’s why we need Bitcoin and Catholic Church.
zBTCowany Hardfork · 39w
This is 100% confirmed right statement, I’ve studied similar cases and it’s so fuckin real!
Uvas · 39w
or maybe the sisters were selfish jerks
Becoming B · 39w
If we could only understand just how much our actions effect those around us . . . seen and unseen.
MattA · 39w
most people suck at pattern recognition. a greater number people suck at taking accountability.
Corrado Alvaro · 39w
Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.
Tony Acid · 39w
The truth don't exist, only different perspectives.
JB · 39w
Trauma is usually something you learn is bad and so you don't wish anyone else has to endure it. If you cause trauma you endured you are usually just selfish.
Achilles · 39w
2 PoV. Truth unknown.
vincent · 39w
he's in denial.
TythePhoneGuy · 39w
MOST people are just screwed up and don't know how to keep their pants on once committed in a relationship :( especially, in a world of technology
Monikaco ⚡️BЯΛVӨ MӨПIKΛ 💥 · 39w
Denial is trauma “response” delay awareness 🧐
William ₿ Travis · 39w
It's not just trauma, it's the lessons learned. People have been taught since the 60s that marriage commitments don't matter. What matters is the idea that you deserved to feel loved even if you have to find it with someone you're not married to. In my wife's family, she's only one of two of eight c...
OgFOMK ArTS · 39w
This is why reading the Bible is very important. Too, serious and not understanding that what can happen, has already happened and there is no point in making the same mistakes others made.
Dr. Cassone · 39w
I'm not a big fan of defining ourselves by our early life experiences, subconsciously or not. Pop psychology narratives are highly speculative, but the worse thing is the victimhood motif within the framework of outsourcing of identity onto others. Even if the dynamics are relatively accurate, they'...
Edouard Nèvres · 39w
It is very difficult to be lucid about one’s own family affairs. My sister named her first son the name of our father, with whom she has a very special and complex relationship. She denies it has anything to do with him.
lemon · 39w
I wonder what my blind spots are
Currency of Distrust · 39w
I was engaged to a woman in the past whose father cheated and she’d constantly beg me not to cheat on her. Then, I caught her sleeping with another dude 🤷😅
Irrepressible · 39w
Everyone has choices. They obviously took his horrendous psychological make-up and never addressed it. Interesting to know... you said you "had" a friend.... did he turn out the same? U not close anymore...?
henry · 39w
So what I surmise from what you’re positing is…. bitcoin is about to pump?
BangBitcoin2 · 39w
It’s more likely they chose men they didn’t really love. Terrified to truly invest in a relationship. Yes - a trauma response.
Blaked2b Catholic · 39w
As a father of a 8yo girl, I know my presence and my behavior with her and my wife is utterly important for her future as a young woman, especially for her future comportment with men.
OmniBitcoin · 39w
He should have ended the sentence at "I don't think"