I'm not that far yet! Learning to be aware of what is happening in my body. And listening to it. And respecting it. Learning what I am prepared to do and what not. Learning not to blame others, as every person is the way they are for a reason. Learning to let go of whstbis beyond my control. Learning to listen. Without defending. (Can't do this with mum yet - but can with most others). Learning not to problem solve for other people. Learning not to judge (Long way still to go). Learning that life is about being, not doing. Learning I have nothing to prove. Learning I'm OK as I am, warts and all. Learning not to try to change others. Learning to recognise and express my needs. Learning that I can't expect any one person to fulfil all my needs. Learning that I don't have to fulfil all the needs of my loved ones.
What a journey. But so worth it.
TRE (trauma release exercise) helps me enormously. Your body knows exactly how to release stored trauma. We have just become too far removed from nature and ourselves to remember how.