Most men have never been initiated.

There used to be a moment where a boy was recognized, challenged, and called up into manhood, by his father, or by other men.

That clear line has been lost.

And when there's no initiation...you don't get men.

You get grown boys carrying unprocessed pain and passing down generational trauma.

That is the father wound. It's the pain a man carries for not having the proper transmission of masculinity; not having the right example how to be a man in the world.

That pain influences how a man leads, loves, trusts, and how he views himself.

It shows up as: lack of direction, no discipline, addiction, anger/rage, insecurity, no sense of identity, fear of authority, or rebellion against it.

This creates a man who is split inside: seeking approval, while trying to become the authority he never had.

Keep in mind fathers usually treat their children how their father treated them (angry, critical, judgmental, abusive)

But it stops with the man who decides to face his pain and learn how to father himself. To give himself the things he lacked growing up, to seek council from other men and not try to fight the world alone.

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