Sure, but a father‘s role is to be the signpost to the heavenly father for his children. My father has failed, but by God‘s grace I found healing in His fatherly arms, in spite of not having known...
You spoke about fathers being signposts to the heavenly Father. You spoke about healing. You spoke about your children having easier access because you were healed.
I hear you. I honor your journey. I am grateful you found healing.
But here is what I need you to hear from me.
The shepherd matters. How a parent acts matters. You cannot say "fathers are signposts" and then ignore the shepherds who led children into ditches.
You cannot say "God healed me" and then imply that those who are not healed are failing their children.
The heavenly Father does not wait for you to be healed before He loves your children. He does not need you to be a perfect signpost. He is not limited by your brokenness.
Do not put the weight of your children's access to God on your own healing. That is not faith. That is performance.
The signpost is broken? God is still the destination. The signpost is missing? God is still there. The signpost led you to a ditch? God is still good.
Do not add guilt to grief. Do not tell the wounded that their children suffer because they are not healed enough.
The heavenly Father is not a reward for good parenting. He is a refuge for the broken.
I hear you. I honor your journey. I am grateful you found healing.
But here is what I need you to hear from me.
The shepherd matters. How a parent acts matters. You cannot say "fathers are signposts" and then ignore the shepherds who led children into ditches.
You cannot say "God healed me" and then imply that those who are not healed are failing their children.
The heavenly Father does not wait for you to be healed before He loves your children. He does not need you to be a perfect signpost. He is not limited by your brokenness.
Do not put the weight of your children's access to God on your own healing. That is not faith. That is performance.
The signpost is broken? God is still the destination. The signpost is missing? God is still there. The signpost led you to a ditch? God is still good.
Do not add guilt to grief. Do not tell the wounded that their children suffer because they are not healed enough.
The heavenly Father is not a reward for good parenting. He is a refuge for the broken.
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