I don't know whether it's the emotion itself so much as self control. If someone throws a drink in your face, you get upset, embarrassed, angry, but you probably don't pick up a glass and try to smash it in someone's face. You can rationalise that even if you wanted to do that there would be consequences for you as well as being able to consider the hypothetical "What if someone smashed a glass in my face?" and determine that it's not the right course of action.

Some people aren't able to do that either in the heat of the moment, or sometimes even in retrospect.

This isn't even a reactive thing. There's been cases of IRL "prankers" threatening people on video to get reactions to post online. Unsurprisngly, occasionally these people have been shot among other things.