very pro-tip that is often overlooked. also, it gets really tiring when you have to constantly try to appease others that doesn't jive with your own values. obviously there's a time of learning and mimicry and expanding one's worldview, but there's also the time to take independence and realize you...

Thats how we become alone 😂

Well said. Hiding behind a mask and lying to the world will not find you or anyone happiness. Be your true self always.

Nobody can put up with me for longer, even myself

I lived the vast majority of my life as an arch people pleaser... I realized, eventually, that the only person that consistently loses in this game is me. I don't know how far I'll be able to get in growing away from this strategy, as I only have so much time left on Earth. But we shall see.

Yes

contextual WoT fixes this. you might align with someone on one context but not on another. you should remain connected with them on the aligned context, but 'unfollow' them on the other context. authentic relationships are complex and not binary. tribalism is binary.

Thoughts that sprang forth reading the above…(to be clear, I heard there’s been some stuff up recently nostr:npub1xtscya34g58tk0z605fvr788k263gsu6cy9x0mhnm87echrgufzsevkk5s but as I’ve barely been on here I have no idea what it was all about, so this is only in direct response to your note her...

Authenticity sounds romantic until we realize most people don't know what it feels like anymore, we edit ourselves for approval, then call it connection, but THE TRUTH ISN'T POLISHED, it's RAW (❗️)🤔, inconvenient, magnetic,...😳 The moment we stop performing (being fake), the realest p...

What if my authentic self is annoying and difficult to stand lol

This starts at the latest when looking for a job, but actually already during vocational training (whatever that may be). Many people don't have the courage to follow your advice even at this stage. From then on, it only gets worse.

Thanks for the advice just unfollowed you, I don't like Iphone people. Nothing personal.

But I’m so different idk if bc anyone aligns with my authentic self… I’d have to unfollow everyone and have no friends in that case lol

When you said “suppressing yourself is like telling a lie that never ends,” it suddenly struck me: buying a yacht is the same. The worst thing is buying a boat for others. You clearly want a small sailboat to fish and enjoy the breeze with your family, but you choose a luxury model for appearanc...

This is why I follow you and have Damus Purple. 👊

that gems tips