Hello fellow freedom seekers!

I just started my Nostr journey.
I use the Damus client but I NEED HELP.
First of all, there’s nothing on my homepage.
I don’t see who I followed. When I tap the follow button it changes to “unfollowing…” I don’t know why.
Also my DMs keep disappearing. Like blank.
I also have to download again and again who follows me…

Last thing: everyone tells me to set up lightning, but how do I do that?

Any links, resources, help, thoughts would be much appreciated.
I’m just a normie.

#help
#damus
#grownostr