In classic fedi fashion, everyone is intentionally misrepresenting what safe-horny means to try and ridicule it. I could let it go and not sperg out over it but that's ironic detachment and fedi keeps telling me that's bad.

What it means is that you pick another fetish as proxy for what you actually want, basically pretend to or are memed into liking something which is still socially acceptable, because male sexuality is under constant scrutiny. What it does not mean is liking something that isn't heinous. In fact, the opposite is often the case. "I like tattooed girlfailures with a bunch of piercings and they smoke and drink and are addicted to fentanyl and brown" is much more safe-horny than most of what you guys posted