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question that came up due to a situation with a friend:

as a dude, let’s say your female partner/wife has a male friend that constantly does things like pick her up from the airport without telling you and fixes things in your house without asking, tries to discipline your kid when you’re not around.

Is this disrespectful to the dude? I say obviously yes, she does not agree ?? I feel like i am taking crazy pills.

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Cameri🐦‍🔥 · 108w

Yeah It’s disrespectful to the dude 100% BUT what they are doing is likely a symptom/effect, not the true cause of their problems. It’s up to HIM to hold his frame and be the man she needs him to be, and he must communicate his boundaries clearly and promptly to her. He needs to step up and b...

Turn the tables and bring a gay girl that cooks for you. Problem solved

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 · 108w

100%. the guy isn’t treating the husband as a friend despite being close to the wife. if he did he’d at least take the time to communicate. I don’t think you can have someone involved in personal matters if they’re not communicating with one party, and the wife’s being selfish by disregard...

Seems like the household is out of balance and the husband should be doing most of those things.

Oz (new npub: npub1tvagkqml8ng8jyr8eq089d8g8tnhlhtvuca6kz79rjpdk24js2hsyrx38h) · 108w

Depends on the level of ego/insecurity of the dude. If he is constantly doubting the integrity of the relationship, doesn't trust his partner to uphold family values, and feels threatened by other males there are probably deep unresolved insecurities about his contribution to the relationship + fa...

Your friend sounds like he needs to sell his ETH and start eating steak

Silas Thornbrook · 108w

Doesn’t matter if he’s gay or not, He should NOT be doing this! You’re 100 % correct for your feelings on this matter.

If he is not a very good friend of both of them it would be weird for me. My wife and I have a common best friend and it would no be weird for me to go pick her up at the airport. Always without neglecting my own partner though

VampireMJ · 108w

That's an uncomfortable situation for sure.

Of course it is, good communication is key to any healthy relationship.

Barkskin · 108w

I would say it all depend on the maturity of the individuals. Disciplining a child is a broad term, if you trust their maturity nothing wrong if someone tells your child no, yes or go away, sit down. But again if he touches your child to discipline your child I would expect a clarification on what ...

Doesn’t matter if girlfriend’s/wife’s friend is gay, straight, female, male etc 1 - You don’t discipline another’s child - wrong. 2 - You don’t fix things in another’s house without asking or discussing first - disrespectful. 3 - If being picked up from the airport everyone should k...

KaliYuga · 108w

regardless of being disrespectful or not in the present, such a situation can only lead to trouble down the road.

I would not feel comfortable with those examples. Guidance (not discipline) for a kid, in a coaching type of way, is probably okay in moderation. Cutting another man’s grass is a red line.

BTC-Satan · 108w

the problem is the female.

ponymontana💜⚡ · 108w

depends on the relationship. All the "respect" problems can be asked by defining if: - there is total sincerity? - the two people in the couple define (even not-formally), accept and then follow their rules? If the answers are "yes" and "yes" there are never problems. In this case, the dude see p...

Original But Not · 108w

Hmmm…I’d say it’s a bit much. But sometimes people do things like whatever they want. Has the husband hacked into wife’s phone and sending gaslighting messages of a rando woman’s DOB etc?? Cos that might make it all but sus 🤔

kids are a no go

btconboard #LNHANCE or #CTV · 108w

Not great at all. Best case: poor social etiquette/communication and the person is just totally oblivious, imho unlikely though certainly possible. Worst case: unfortunately more likely case is there’s something shady going on. Ultimately, this is more a conversation for the two partners on bou...

Sounds like it to me. Need both sides but based on what you are saying? Yeah especially the kids part

Pedro 🧨 · 108w

Sound the creep alert 🚨

Its not his job to stop beeing dIsr3esPectFUl but your job to find the self confidence and drop the insecurities ❤️

bodegaboxboy · 108w

unless its a long time mutual family friend to both the man and woman, like an "uncle" situation, I would call this sus...

mtwarrior · 108w

Your instincts are correct. First instinct is usually correct. Trust them

Ramón Narder photographer · 108w

That guy is totally rajuñando la arepa

Nope. Couldn’t have ever let it get that far.

james_r · 108w

I have never seen something so absurd and this woman is completely clueless

not necessarily

TKay ⚡ · 108w

Unacceptable. Same the other way around.

Disrespectful from both the wife and the friend. It’s ok to have male friends as a female (and vice-versa) but this behavior is not that of a friend. It should not be accepted by the husband nor the wife. If the wife insists it’s fine, imho there’s a bigger problem underneath.

Lululuna · 108w

I’d be honouring the way he feels - disrespected - and if she doesn’t agree I’d ask her why. Every discussion is a doorway to new information & connection. It’d be interesting to hear what she says like- for example the extra support cld really be helping her when her man is not there & sh...

Deleted Account · 108w

HOT TAKE: THE HUSBAND IS A SERIOUS CUCK & EVERYONE INVOLVED IS INTO IT

Danny 👾 · 108w

If your partner's male friend is playing handyman and babysitter without a heads-up, it’s not just disrespectful; it’s a sitcom plot waiting to implode! Trust and boundaries, anyone?

BureauGewas Realist Painter · 108w

First question is, how long do the partner and her friend know each other? Is it a long time friend or some guy who just appeared? Secondly, does the wife tell your friend about these things? Or does he find out afterwards? Finally, does your friend have/take time to run errands himself and be wit...

There is no such thing “male friend”, if the man is not gay there is attraction form one or both sides

just one more thing · 108w

the male is almost certainly laying pipe and if he's not now, he will be at some point in the future

Bitcoin Wizard 🧙🏻‍♂️ · 108w

There is no friendship between a man and a woman if they find each other attractive and get along well. One of them is just waiting for their chance

Have a nice day · 108w

MCBitcoin · 108w

100% banging the wife or trying to.