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Troy · 3w
You can't forgive someone that doesn't have remorse. In fact, forgiving someone that isn't sorry is disrespectful. It's an "I'm better than you" power play.
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I thought very much like that until a week ago. Now I get the feeling a shift is coming and I can probably understand and forgive, as much as that can be done while keeping healthy boundaries. I am not there yet lol.

There may also be psychological benefit in connecting with an archetypal father internally, if the real thing is not worth the effort.
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Zsubmariner · 1w
It's easy to convince yourself that your greivances are some kind of protection. They are not. Forgiving someone who wrongs you does not require sacrificing any boundary. Forgiveness is purely a matter of your own heart. As long as you hold on to the feeling that somebody owes you something, you a...
Troy · 1w
Being willing to forgive is not the same as performing the act. An act which requires more than one person, and if done respectfully, is conditional.