Quite right to identify the fundamental unit. The home is the starting point of all of it. Ultimately, I agree with you. The movement away from patriarchy has resulted in population collapse. People (especially women) may not like it, but there is now an entire globe of universal and cross-cultural evidence which speaks this truth:

When men make money they spend it on building familes. When women make money the fertility rate collapses.

I don't make the rules. Denial won't make these facts go away.