Years ago, I reached out to a much larger account than mine to share/enquire about an idea. I rambled a bit in my explanation (*gasp!* I know). He came back with roughly:
"Dude, you gotta figure out ...
Over explaining can be a symptom of trauma. I have a traumatic brain injury resulting from early childhood thru my late teens physical abuse.
It was not only the beatings, but it was the fact that I wasn't ever heard.
Not being heard, even in a "non- abusive" household will develop connections in our brains that prompt us to communicate one way or another.
You were empathic to try comprehend where their impatience with you came from. This doesn't free them from also having a responsibility to exercise the same consideration towards you.
There are ways to tell someone: this is too long for me, I can't read it all. Could you summarize?
If they were tactful with you, I'd understand your excusing them. But just as I need to push myself harder and harder as I age to be concise; people need to learn to respectfully consider other people's ability or inability to communicate.
My two sats.
It was not only the beatings, but it was the fact that I wasn't ever heard.
Not being heard, even in a "non- abusive" household will develop connections in our brains that prompt us to communicate one way or another.
You were empathic to try comprehend where their impatience with you came from. This doesn't free them from also having a responsibility to exercise the same consideration towards you.
There are ways to tell someone: this is too long for me, I can't read it all. Could you summarize?
If they were tactful with you, I'd understand your excusing them. But just as I need to push myself harder and harder as I age to be concise; people need to learn to respectfully consider other people's ability or inability to communicate.
My two sats.
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