I did this and none of the single women in my church my age wanted to go out.

"No, don't you dare ask the church for direct help getting married. That will ruin your wonderful and beautiful Gift of Singleness™ with which you serve God extra more (but we know you could have done while married anyways).

Don't you know Daniel, John the Baptist, Jesus, and Paul were never married? Don't you want to be like them?

Stop idolizing marriage, romance, sex, family, kids, and all that. We won't be married in Heaven anyways. The Christian life is not about you."

The super majority of cases are like guy replying, mostly minus the harassment, because we still cuddle the feminist zeitgeist and refuse to purge the Cathodox cult of virginity and the leaders still wonder why the church has lost control of the world and their flocks. THe worst part is that we don't tell poor men "Go and be filled," like the rich of James with true working faith. We tell the those burning alive with desire, "Hunger is good for you, poor man. Stop complaining and stop desiring."

God's judgement on us is going to suck.