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I’m Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, a couples therapist and the founder of Empathi.com. I believe that the principles of secure attachment and sound money are the two essential protocols for building a future filled with hope. I’m a husband and dad living in Hawaii, where I paddle outrigger canoes and get humbled daily by the wind and waves. I’m also incessantly funny—so much so that I should probably see someone about it.

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Recent Notes

HoloKat · 77w
Lately, when I fall asleep, I hear voices -either shouting at me or whispering in a creepy ghostly way. They always wake me up. Onset of schizophrenia? 🤨
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The difference byn the soundest of mental health and dissociative personality disorder/multiple personality disorder is very small.

Those with the soundest of mental health know they are a multiplicity of subjectivities and can welcome each one of them, let them be felt, expressed and integrate their perspective into your adaptive/ego identity.

Dissociative personality disorder your different subjectivities take over whenever they feel like it and your adaptive identity never integrates their voices into the sense of self. We are left at their mercy as separate disowned parts of ourselves shouting ever louder to be heard.

So perhaps the voices are just disowned parts of your multiplicity begging to be heard and taken in from the shadows and integrated into your sense of self.

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Lyn Alden · 79w
The fact that more public companies haven’t run the MicroStrategy playbook yet is kind of wild actually.
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I listened to @Dylan LeClair podcast interview last week and he seemed to conclude he doesn’t expect a lot of corps will follow the mstr playbook given the rare combo of experience in trad finance, a deep understanding and conviction in bitcoin, and an ability to wrap one’s head around the idea that diluting one’s stock can be a net benefit. It flies in face of common wisdom in corporate finance.

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I hear you and I totally agree. I just being silly.

Food is definitely the hardest place for me to have my low time preference self win out and thus food is the area in life that I am most dedicated to working on. :)

Damn you bitcoin making me value and work on having low time preference!
Dave🐸 · 79w
“Babe I know it looks like a cult, but it’s so not a cult.” https://media.tenor.com/O4SAbb1fIdkAAAAC/what-is-this.gif
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Do I have to be disciplined around food to be considered a good bitcoiner or is staying humble and stacking sats enough regardless of how much I love cake, pizza, popcorn, chocolate, potato chips and tea and toast?

#food
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HODL · 79w
Every woman ever: My love language is all of the love languages. Every man ever: My love language is physical touch. 😂
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One’s love language is typically the inverse of the way you didn’t receive love as a child.

If you were abandoned - your love language will be presence/signs you can rely on your partner to be there for you.

If you were made to feel not enough as a child your love language will be to be enough/accpetable.

If you were not a priority for your parents your love language will be to be the most importsnt person to your partner.

And so it is.

Our need to be attached - emotionally bonded will be the last part of our humanity that will get striped away despite how hard we try not to need to be attached.

It is what it is.

Don’t shoot the messenger.
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I have helped a few friends get off zero. Pat myself in the back.

But I do still need to thread lightly.

They are still not orange pilled.

And I can easily be overwhelming and scare the shit out of them.

I have learned the hard way that just because they got off zero it doesn’t mean they are ready to go deep down the rabbit hole yet and I scare them when I start talking g to them like they are a full fledged bride in bitcoin now.
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There are two types of couples therapists.

There’s honest ones, and there’s the rest.

The honest couples therapist gets up in the morning and looks themself in the fucking mirror, and sets their standard. Sets their stall out, and says I’m going to get better. I’m going to get better. I’m going to get better.

They don’t complain about the clients, or the internet connection, or the model. Or all these sorts of things.

These are just peripheral things that weak couples therapists have always complained about. The dishonest couples therapist.

If The couple are not getting the cycle, if they are not deescalating, if they are not surrendering to one narrative - it is on you.

And we accept that, and we do something about it. We keep working on understanding them, loving them, reflecting the cycle more creatively, deeper, invest more of your own vulnerability. You do what it takes.

It is a battle. Bare knuckle stuff. You must win the battle. You must win for the relationship.


:)

#relationships
#couples therapy
#marriage
#relstionship advice

Credit British and Irish lions speech by Jim telfer 1997 for inspiration
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Figs · 79w
https://youtu.be/su9PtmpE1lI?si=3liQTXVFRzPYYCmC
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If you do a good job as a teacher all your students will take everything they can absorb from you, devouring your essence, and then throw away your carcass and disown your role in shaping opinions/career/success. 😭

A little tricky to have my wife do this with me, but c’est la vie.

We are both couples therapists and have our own podcast at comeheretomepodcast.com

This video here is an unedited little recording we did today on a family fun day as our kids are on fall break.

#relationship #marriage #systemstheory #attachment theory. #bitcoinersdeservegoodrelationshipstoo
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Figs · 80w
Hmmm..video won’t upload. I guess one of the things about nostr I gotta get used to that even my posts with errors remain on my profile? Hmm…indeed.