At this point we should probably use something like jemalloc and dump memory profiles to disk or something.
I got a heap dump of the issue. It seems to be related to this issue: https://github.com/n0-computer/iroh/issues/4390
Dump: https://gist.github.com/ericpp/2d23687ca9fa9f52b92a9e62ffabd098#file-rams-txt
Dump: https://gist.github.com/ericpp/2d23687ca9fa9f52b92a9e62ffabd098#file-rams-txt