What do you mean use your own?i tried that lightningaddress.com it google would not let me...i tried downloading most of the lightning apps and it downloads but won't want to make me an account.

You might want to educate yourself a bit more before exclaiming something sucks... If you use a custodial lightning wallet (a wallet where someone else is managing the wallet backend and infrastructure) then of course you have to use their domain. Examples - wallet of Satoshi, Alby, Bitcoin Beach w...