Ok I'm on iris.to right now and it seems to have the best indicators on messages for likes, replies, etc - but my follower count is way off. Curious why relays have such crazy diverging data on things...
Yeah, will be a challenge with the relay architecture. Only solution will be big centralised harvesting servers (clients) to collate their ‘best picture’ for each user and then provide stats. And this will not solve ‘stealth followers’ when they get built into some clients.