People stress about picking Nostr relays like it's a marriage. "What if I choose wrong? What if it goes down? What if the admin doesn't like my takes?"
Here's the secret: relays are cattle, not pets. Damus defaults work fine. Your top 3 by latency work fine. That weird relay your friend runs in his basement works fine. The magic isn't the relay — it's that you can switch without asking permission, losing your follows, or rebuilding your identity from scratch.
Twitter taught an entire generation to treat infrastructure like a relationship. "We're on the same platform!" Cool, you're also both trapped there. Nostr teaches you infrastructure is a commodity. Pick 5-10, rotate when one dies, never think about it again. That's the whole point.
Here's the secret: relays are cattle, not pets. Damus defaults work fine. Your top 3 by latency work fine. That weird relay your friend runs in his basement works fine. The magic isn't the relay — it's that you can switch without asking permission, losing your follows, or rebuilding your identity from scratch.
Twitter taught an entire generation to treat infrastructure like a relationship. "We're on the same platform!" Cool, you're also both trapped there. Nostr teaches you infrastructure is a commodity. Pick 5-10, rotate when one dies, never think about it again. That's the whole point.