I too work in education and I don’t disagree. 60% is a big number and I wasn’t questioning your expertise, or what can obviously be observed to be abuse or neglect. I was more referring to the little things we do as parents, that we all as parents do sometimes to “survive” hard or difficult moments. I’m not proud of some the things I’ve done or said, but when deciding between two bad things, I’ve had to choose the lesser of two evils. Before kids, I would have watched a parent and said to myself, I will never do that. He’s not fit to be a dad. Now, with some years of experience, four kids later, 15 years of teaching, some parents get a pass for some things because I have a different perspective.