This is interesting, but how do the peers holepunch to each other?

if you like dxos.org you should check all the dat-ecosystem.org projects 😉

Woah. There's a lot of backend dev jargon. Can you understand it and ELI5 the few main points and differences? Dxos uses IPFS and seems... organized and nicely marketed and packaged. This advantage alone could gain it traction that nostr suffers. Is it as censorship resistant and free as nostr?