you can pretend a lot though, and then go home drained as a motherfuckler

all you can really do it find something to take your mind off it, and if you're lucky you can become autistically interested in that thing to the point of taking your mind off it a lot of the time.

if you're unlucky that thing is degenerate and you slip into the darkness. I think that's how trannies/furries/gooners/etc are made.