I hate the state of nostr DMs at the moment, or more specifically how all nostr apps implement them. Sooner or later I'm going to need to write my own NIP-07 that rejects ALL 1000s of decrypt requests...
DMs are pretty messy. This is how I came to switch from regular Gift Wraps to Private Streams for private events where you can’t filter on timestamp but you want the metadata privacy. This way it’s only trying to decrypt that content and isn’t muddled with DMs and who knows what other Gift Wraps