We are not very active on Nostr, because when my VPN is on (and it's always on), my relay connection count looks as follows:
https://image.nostr.build/36657d1653695dc94e4299ac4f6f7ac30931f46e125ad53b...
Reduce your relays to less than 10 and test it again, 22 is too many and causes issues. Reducing the number increases considerably the performance of any client.
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