Nostr is decentralized, it will be centralized if we all used the same relays to see each other.

Gowron's client should not send the events to your relay, it doesn't makes sense to send my events to everyone relays.

Instead, Gowron's client send the events to Gowron's write relays, and your client should read from it and fetch Gowron's events, why? because Gowron in your follow list (contact list).

What is your client?