Also keep in mind that neither nos.lol nor damus have your contact list. Damus is gone, so you might need to choose another home relay.
It's not about a specific relay, but about how the app handles relays. The same relay list shows me all posts in the feed in other apps. But my friends and I both have issues in Amethyst feed with this bridge-relays. And I'll repeat myself again: a post only disappears from the feed, if I go to those authors' accounts, I can see all their posts, and after that, those old posts immediately reappear in the feed too