That sounds you had a tough time growing up. Your post brings multiple personal life stories into my memory, and I am sure all human beings share that feeling with you. We meet so many people in our life time, that it is practically impossible to not have at least one meaningful connection broken, a relationship that left us hurt, disillusioned, ashamed or proud, when we stood up and showed them their place.

If you feel that you were branded as the bad guy, you just feel the same as every outsider whoever tried to fit in and got rejected. It can teach you many things in my experience - people can be cruel, the can even make you act like a fool, make you loose your temper, so it looks, as if they were right to shun you. But the most important thing for me was, to have learned to see behind the facade of a human being. Now I can petty selfserving motivation, when I talk with someone and I can see a good person's heart, brought to the limits. That's the moment, when I try to step in and help. That's also the moment, where you find your true family.

I am not surrounded by many people. But all the people I talk more than a single sentence to I respect, they will never know. But all the others know, because I never talk at all.