I tried stoicism, it's a wonderful philosophy which helped me so much in my life.
But it didn't help me accept who I'm told I am. I never found myself in the ♂ gender. I tried and tried so hard to ...
If you cannot find the answers through reflection alone, then perhaps counselling is the solution. Others, especially trained psychiatrists, may be able to help you see solutions that are indistinct or invisible from your current point of view.