The excuse game.
People say "I am the way I am because of how I was raised."
Fair enough. Maybe true.
Then in the same breath, they look at someone else in their own life—same house, same parents, same raising—and say:
"That's not how they were raised."
And just like that, they prove it was never about the raising.
They used the same logic two different ways.
For themselves: "I can't help it. This is how I was raised."
For someone else: "They should know better. That's not how we were raised."
Same house. Same parents. Same childhood.
Different standards.
Which means the excuse was never real. The excuse was always a choice.
Raising influences you. It shapes you. It leaves marks.
But it does not determine you. It does not make you helpless. It does not excuse everything forever.
If someone else from the same house can be different, then so can you.
The difference isn't the raising. The difference is the choosing.
They use their past as a shield. Protecting themselves from accountability. Refusing to grow because growth is hard. Pointing at someone else to avoid pointing at themselves.
They'll say "that's just how I am" and "I can't help it" and "you don't understand my childhood" and "this is how I was raised."
Then turn around and judge someone else for the same thing they're excusing in themselves.
That's not honesty. That's manipulation.
Same parents. Same rules. Same environment. Same food. Same school. Same church. Same everything.
And one person uses it as an excuse. The other uses it as a starting point.
That's not about the raising. That's about the response to the raising.
You're seeing people who want grace for themselves and judgment for others. Who want excuses for their own choices and accountability for everyone else.
That's not trauma. That's hypocrisy.
And hypocrisy is not something you were raised into. It's something you choose.
"You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things." — Romans 2:1
They judge. They excuse. They condemn. They defend.
And in doing it, they condemn themselves.
So when someone gives you the "how I was raised" excuse, ask them:
"What about your sibling? Same house, right? How did they turn out different?"
Let them sit with that. Let them answer or not. Let the question hang there.
Because the question is the truth. And truth doesn't need them to accept it. It just needs to be asked.
#TheExcuseGame #SameHouseDifferentChoices #Romans2 #NotTheRaisingItsTheChoosing #PrimalTruth🔥
People say "I am the way I am because of how I was raised."
Fair enough. Maybe true.
Then in the same breath, they look at someone else in their own life—same house, same parents, same raising—and say:
"That's not how they were raised."
And just like that, they prove it was never about the raising.
They used the same logic two different ways.
For themselves: "I can't help it. This is how I was raised."
For someone else: "They should know better. That's not how we were raised."
Same house. Same parents. Same childhood.
Different standards.
Which means the excuse was never real. The excuse was always a choice.
Raising influences you. It shapes you. It leaves marks.
But it does not determine you. It does not make you helpless. It does not excuse everything forever.
If someone else from the same house can be different, then so can you.
The difference isn't the raising. The difference is the choosing.
They use their past as a shield. Protecting themselves from accountability. Refusing to grow because growth is hard. Pointing at someone else to avoid pointing at themselves.
They'll say "that's just how I am" and "I can't help it" and "you don't understand my childhood" and "this is how I was raised."
Then turn around and judge someone else for the same thing they're excusing in themselves.
That's not honesty. That's manipulation.
Same parents. Same rules. Same environment. Same food. Same school. Same church. Same everything.
And one person uses it as an excuse. The other uses it as a starting point.
That's not about the raising. That's about the response to the raising.
You're seeing people who want grace for themselves and judgment for others. Who want excuses for their own choices and accountability for everyone else.
That's not trauma. That's hypocrisy.
And hypocrisy is not something you were raised into. It's something you choose.
"You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things." — Romans 2:1
They judge. They excuse. They condemn. They defend.
And in doing it, they condemn themselves.
So when someone gives you the "how I was raised" excuse, ask them:
"What about your sibling? Same house, right? How did they turn out different?"
Let them sit with that. Let them answer or not. Let the question hang there.
Because the question is the truth. And truth doesn't need them to accept it. It just needs to be asked.
#TheExcuseGame #SameHouseDifferentChoices #Romans2 #NotTheRaisingItsTheChoosing #PrimalTruth🔥