Phoenix, while being a great wallet/service, market dominance is not healthy. For instance, they know balances (and when they pay/get paid) of all their user's nodeIds - and once you share an invoice or BOLT12 publicly they can now tie it to your social. We should not put so much trust into one en...

Phoenix is really good and I recommend it to people, however: - extreme form of "non-custodial centealizarion" - very very bad privacy - actually super expensive I think it's smarter to use Zeus with your own Lightning node on a server at this point.

I use Zeus+Tailscale on my own node and it's pretty fast

Look into setting up Wireguard between your node and the wallet. This might shed more light: https://v2.minibolt.info/bonus-guides/system/wireguard-vpn