I don't understand the tor reference?
As I see it the LN technology is interesting and can bring improvements especially for self hosted and special use cases but is more difficult to run.
Most LN us...
Look at cake wallet. They use breeze sdk for there lightning implementation. It's self custodial and works automatically in a few clicks. The only trade off is that you are locked in to a lsp for liquidity. But you can recover on chain (force close) if they misbehave.