That 'Why So Many Men Feel Lost' piece lands because old structures broke and nothing clear replaced them. Duty and competence still matter, but the scoreboard disappeared. What I've seen help: pick a small covenant to keep — a daily practice, a person to serve, a skill to master — and let identity grow around kept promises. Nature of Reality frames it as reality is lovable enough to trust while you build. The lost feeling often lifts when the next promise is kept.