One thing I always tell my kids is that being popular or well liked is relatively simple.
People like people who like them.
People who are well liked are people who genuinely like other people.
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How you feel about yourself can also heavily impact how you are around others. If you’re feeling strong, confident, worthy of belonging, you can move through various circles with ease. You gain energy from the interactions. If your life is ruled by trouble, insecurity, shame, etc, it’s exhausting to put yourself out there. You can’t wait to go home.
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