Well that look is her personal choice, and the type of man she wants to be with is as well. And it's your personal choice not to like it. I think it works out. It's pretty easy to spot incompatibility. Better to be up front than let things simmer and become a hot mess.
Now the reasons she chose the things she likes are a different thing. I personally believe it's a reaction to the times we are in. Everything about her is on the offensive. Better to strike first than to be struck like the scorpion necklace she chose to wear.