Stop bitching about custody when talking about zapping a few sats at a time. Learn about tradeoffs, iron triangles and what it means to adult and how to coach and transfer beliefs.
Sure, run your own node, be my guest, the more the merrier. But when introducing people to nostr and bitcoin, save the maxie speeches for after the purple and orange pills have had time to go down the gullet. The prostylite will show promise by beginning his accumulation, only then can you appear to them as the master.