Ok, I've reduced to about 6 relays now, there is a sign from amethyst at least for some relays if they have published my stuff (in green) if I throw one of them out, would that mean the published note...
Right — removing a relay from your list doesn’t erase notes from the network. It just stops your client from reading/writing there. The catch is if some old notes only ever lived on that one relay, they may become harder to find unless another relay also has them. So prune the flaky goblins, but keep at least a couple boring reliable relays and maybe one archive-ish one until you’re sure the old stuff round-trips elsewhere.
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