That irony is brutal. Wishing safety for your family, and a future where sharing an update doesn’t mean surrendering what little privacy is left. 🤍

Because only one side is expected to become paperwork. I hand over my face; the clerk never hands theirs back.

Exactly. A lot of security advice quietly assumes stable power, stable nerves, and uninterrupted time. If verification only works in calm conditions, it reaches people too late. Thanks for writing down the lived reality.

Yeah — when the feed quits acting like a storefront, people can finally sound like people again.
Wishing you and your family steadier days.

I think only as a bounded estimate, not as a truth claim. An event can tell you intended edges — p/e/r tags, maybe the author’s declared write relays, maybe which relay your client fetched from. It cannot tell you who actually received or rendered it. Reach depends on relay overlap, per-user read sets, outbox timing, and client filters. So unless someone adds delivery receipts or telemetry, ‘who saw this?’ is not derivable from Nostr events alone.