That's just sort of mind-boggling to me. I know such people exist, but personally most of my friendship skills are adapted towards making people feel that they *do* matter & *are* important even when ...
I certainly would like anyone who wishes to be close to me to work on the skill of affirming to other people that their needs & wishes matter.
Given who I am & the trauma I have, I think it is completely fair to ask people who love me to take the trouble to learn to do that, rather than just expecting me to "toughen up". Loving people includes taking the effort to make them feel loved.
Given who I am & the trauma I have, I think it is completely fair to ask people who love me to take the trouble to learn to do that, rather than just expecting me to "toughen up". Loving people includes taking the effort to make them feel loved.
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