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I have a feeling I'll be ghosting a lot of friends in the coming years.

Spending time around bitcoiners makes me question old friendships. I have friends I've known for 20+ years who haven't offered any real value in a long time.

That sounds awful to say, but they are so caught up in their dead end jobs and other bullshit. No care for anything else. They think the MSM and government are the best sources of truth. No interest in growing, or in self reflection.

Any attempt at deep, meaningful conversation basically turn into the "That's crazy. Catch the game last night?" meme. It's frustrating.

I'm still processing my feelings on this. I haven't had a close "crew" of buddies since high school. Even that was superficial. I've always been that guy people hang out with, but never a part of the "inner circle" or whatever.

I'm not saying this to garner empathy. I'm the complete opposite of depressed, and I don't stay up at night wishing I was one of the cool kids. I like having a close family, a wife that's my best friend, and a couple others I can talk to about anything and everything in a meaningful way.

I'm just wondering if it's time to drop some baggage.



Nostr is a great place for long-ish form writing. I love privacy, but I also love sharing the human experience. I spent the first 30 years of life keeping everything bottled up inside.

Never going back to that.
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William ₿ Travis · 87w
I have found that friends have backed away since I started embracing bitcoin. Even certain corners of the family. Some would say that family is more important than money, but when they're still in love with the fiat system even after finding out about bitcoin, I don't know how to help them.
Biome · 87w
I feel totally different. Although my internet friends stimulate me with discussions that I can not have with my friends outside this space, I find myself really comfortable whith my irl friends. I was in Spain recently and I live in the US. My friends in Spain, with which I grew up, are the most i...
tulkooo · 87w
This has been happening to me too, I'm more likely to attend a #Bitcoin meetup than having a beer with old friends Actually, I can't even remember when was the last time I had beer with old friends (definitely more than a year) but 1 - 2 meetups every month for sure
Mohammad Salman · 87w
Friends become acquaintances. Acquaintances become friends. Again and again. A pattern to embrace.
db · 87w
I just read through all these comments and if they don’t give you hope for the future and love for this community, nothing will. Stay real and true to yourself. It’s not the quantity of friends but the quality. Judging by these comments, there’s no shortage of love. This may be the real reason...
j'ai les clés · 87w
Sometimes you just have to let people go. I agree it sucks to say “I dropped people out of my social life who weren’t providing value…” A gentler perspective I once heard was, “I invited these people out of my lives, and they didn’t put up any resistance.”
Roman Leonardo · 86w
Pfoeh, you’re describing many dynamics I’m experiencing and feeling. I see this more from bitcoiners although I’ve had a hard time making new friends among bitcoiners. I know they’re there but most times I go to meetups and conferences its majority ngu audience as far as I can tell. My appr...
darylbrice · 86w
Your friend group will naturally shrink as you age as you become wiser and value your time appropriately. Cherish the close friends you have and if you make new ones along the way its a bonus.
Fake Pilot · 86w
Same, I moved to a new city. My old friends all, sadly, feel very mind controlled. I’ve always been quite open hearted, open minded and honest speaking. Now that I changed politically, economically, spiritually, they no longer wish to hear anything I say. At first, I censored myself. Then I starte...
Bitcoin Wizard 🧙🏻‍♂️ · 86w
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davesoma · 86w
I feel the same and have reached the conclusion that this is the price to pay for opening our eyes before others. It allows us to weather a crisis in a way that positions us in the exclusive club of those who thrive instead of just survive. "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from b...
General Kenobi · 86w
Even though I feel you, and I’ve been the same type of person as the one you describe, cool with all but “in” with none, there is still some value to those old “fiat” friendships. These are the people that anchor you back to the real world. They are small reminders of how much work there ...
jo 🇺🇸 · 86w
correct. it's a one-way trip
ManiMe · 86w
> “I've always been that guy people hang out with, but never a part of the "inner circle" or whatever.” Dude. Number of times last week I was like “gotta go talk to mandrik … but maybe I’m not cool enough.” Cause also, I’m friendly with most people, but never been “inner circle”...
21 Stackage 🦡 · 86w
Wow...I've been going through something similar recently. Over the past four years, I've mentally diverged from some people I've known for over a decade. The willful ignorance, status-chasing, and dog-eat-dog nihilism of Fiatnam have become unbearably grating to me (not all normies are like this, bu...
Men ☕ · 86w
Man, thanks for opening up this topic... I've been in a mental battle, thinking about my friends a lot. I'm feeling strange around them. They've been my friends for the last 9-10 years, but right now, something feels missing. In my group, I'm the only one who runs a business; all my friends do 9-5...
shadow06 · 86w
Work on that mastermind. They'll self-select out. No need to be active about it. If you're not growing you're dieing. Growing will move you to better places/people and leave them behind. Don't think too much about it. Focus on you.
Bobby Apple · 86w
I hear you and agree with you. I’ve ghosted a lot of friends lately. Not sure how far out you’re going but the beginning of the book The Four Agreements feels very red pill. Everything you believe wasn’t your choice but was a download of the society you’re brought up in. Also Cleburn Walker ...
TAX EVADER · 86w
Many of us here feel the exact same way
SimOne · 86w
Important to stuff to share. 🙏
Séimí Mac Síomón · 86w
Covid showed me which "friends" would wave bye-bye as they push you onto the gulag express. I can't unsee it.
Jake Woodhouse · 86w
What more do you need than a wife as a best friend, plus some close confidants? Wasn’t how I expected it things to turn out, in the same boat, but getting used to the new-normal fast Keep asking great questions! 🙏🏻
ObiWanSatoshiRN · 86w
Exactly! It’s funny how a conversation can go to truth and reality (red pill), and in split second their faces turn blank and they don’t want to talk about “that” anymore. They thought they took the red pill…
HODL · 86w
I’ve gone through this process and it’s better on the other side. It’s ok to let relationships that aren’t serving you drift away.