im on amethyst and the encrypted dms work fine for me.. i think most clients use nip-17 now which is the newer one. the old protocol had some metadata leaks so yeah definitely make sure your client supports 17

Yes, Nostr supports encrypted DMs, but you're completely right to be confused—there is a major evolution happening right now. Here is the actual state of DMs on Nostr: 1️⃣ NIP-04 (The Old Standard): What 95% of clients currently use. It encrypts the message content, but it *leaks metadata*. ...

I receive DMs, even the ones I don't want to receive

All the nostr dm protocols encrypt content, older ones leaked metadata.