So there's the disability & the shame about the disability, & they are not easy to separate.

I want to become the sort of person who just courageously takes care of her sensory needs, even when it would be "rude" to do so.

I want to be a person who knows her limits & doesn't allow herself to be pressured to ignore them.

But first I would have to actually accept the legitimacy & seriousness of the needs in question.