Why grief? Your mom may live nearby but what real detachment can do is that  she's no longer your mom in some sense. The definition for you can change. She can be woman who raise you (caring, but not perfect) or maybe more of a friend, but you just "lost" your mom. The picture of her as a perfect, good mom, vision of her that she's there for you etc. all delusional aspects, still - unfortunately-things you are carrying from childhood are constantly changing, transforming. 


But we have WiFi now. Internet and many meet ups in real life. Whether people know it or not, these beautiful woman showing us their world can fill the gap. Just by watching them, listening to them. They're like a cool aunties or even second mothers, resembling them in the way they speak or gesticulate, but it's all a little bit more free from attachments. 

So it can be easier nowadays. 

And for mothers too it's easier. Moms today can "adopt" as many daughters and sons online, these young girls who clearly need guidance or just seeking support or attention, nice words of appreciation under some smiley photos posted on Instagram. You can let your own children grow, let them go. 

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Today the void is easier to patch.
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