Can a man not know that he is a rapist??
I keep seeing pictures of Russell Brand cuz of his rape trial, but, I don’t see a rapist when I look at him.
Disclaimer: I don’t know this guy, I wasn’t there, I am not declaring him innocent or guilty. I have no idea. I’m just pondering.
I have never been a big fan of his. He was interesting for about 5 mins when he left the Hollywood scene and when he got into Bitcoin. ...and then it quickly became clear how off the rails he is... it seems in anything that he does.
Now you don’t get that many women accusing you of assault and willing to go through a massively disruptive process in their life to prove it unless something went very wrong. But despite it being very clear that he is a very unbalanced person, I don’t get any sense of danger when I look at photos or videos of him, and I certainly do when looking at other famous rapists such as Weinstein or Diddy. Now my perception doesn’t necessarily mean anything to anyone, but it fuels a lot of curiosity for me.
I think it might be possible for a man to not know that he is a rapist. When you have a culture where women are shamed out of any connection to their own sexual desires and so very limited in their ability to communicate about it. When you have a culture that makes it very difficult to report an assault. When you have a culture that teaches young men that they need to be the pursuer and that women will ‘play hard to get’ and they need to be persistent. When you have a culture that values men for their ability to ‘dominate’. And when you mix that all with the loss of perspective and connection to reality that comes with massive fame… can a man rape women and not realize that’s what’s happening?
Can a man see himself as respecting women, see himself as respectful of “no’s” and yet be in a position that allows him to just bull doze his way through a sexual encounter not realizing the metaphorical or literal corner that he has backed someone into and walk away from the experience genuinely believing that everyone had a good time? Do you think that’s possible?
I keep seeing pictures of Russell Brand cuz of his rape trial, but, I don’t see a rapist when I look at him.
Disclaimer: I don’t know this guy, I wasn’t there, I am not declaring him innocent or guilty. I have no idea. I’m just pondering.
I have never been a big fan of his. He was interesting for about 5 mins when he left the Hollywood scene and when he got into Bitcoin. ...and then it quickly became clear how off the rails he is... it seems in anything that he does.
Now you don’t get that many women accusing you of assault and willing to go through a massively disruptive process in their life to prove it unless something went very wrong. But despite it being very clear that he is a very unbalanced person, I don’t get any sense of danger when I look at photos or videos of him, and I certainly do when looking at other famous rapists such as Weinstein or Diddy. Now my perception doesn’t necessarily mean anything to anyone, but it fuels a lot of curiosity for me.
I think it might be possible for a man to not know that he is a rapist. When you have a culture where women are shamed out of any connection to their own sexual desires and so very limited in their ability to communicate about it. When you have a culture that makes it very difficult to report an assault. When you have a culture that teaches young men that they need to be the pursuer and that women will ‘play hard to get’ and they need to be persistent. When you have a culture that values men for their ability to ‘dominate’. And when you mix that all with the loss of perspective and connection to reality that comes with massive fame… can a man rape women and not realize that’s what’s happening?
Can a man see himself as respecting women, see himself as respectful of “no’s” and yet be in a position that allows him to just bull doze his way through a sexual encounter not realizing the metaphorical or literal corner that he has backed someone into and walk away from the experience genuinely believing that everyone had a good time? Do you think that’s possible?
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