“Women don’t need respect” “Women want to be dominated” “Women find it stressful to make their own decisions”

Copium for rapists.

Men are perfectly capable of being both horny and respectful. Rape is not caused by testosterone. Rape is caused by poor moral values.

Rape happens when there is horniness mixed with the concept that it’s appropriate to dominate/denigrate/control others.

If you are someone who has ever asked yourself “if they were assaulted why did they act like everything was fine?”, or “why didn’t they report it sooner/at all?” or “If they were being abused why didn’t they just leave?” If you ponder these things, if you genuinely want the answers, I have them for you!

The answers can be found in two books…

Trauma and Recovery by Dr Judith Herman
Virginia Roberts Giuffre’s memoir Nobody’s Girls

And I’d highly recommend reading them in that order.

I need to warn you, these are tough reads. They contain stories of the worst of humanity, they are graphic.

If you want to understand how the human mind manages trauma, those books are where the knowledge lies.

But you can't teach people to be decent, can you?

If you have to explain to someone why coercing someone into sex is a bad thing to do, then really you just need to stay away from that person.

Consent is very easy to understand when you think about assault/rape like theft.

You have a shiny new iPhone. You are hanging out with friends and one of them asks you to give them your new phone. You decline. This friend then waits for you to get nearly black out drunk and then asks you again and when you are busy rambling on about it they take your iPhone. Theft.

You are alone with a friend in their car. they ask for your iPhone. You say no. They are twice your size. they push you into the corner, doors locked, and ask you for your iPhone another 15 times in a row. You know you aren't leaving that car with your iPhone, you stop struggling and let them take the iPhone so that you can just leave the car. Theft.

Do you get it?