ya. I don't associate with people when their values are just far too different from my own.

why not impose my will? ...because I'm not a tyrant.

imposing my will? No.

did it lead to insights that changed me? Yes!

I've probably got a whole journal entry about it.

Not sure what you mean. But just the fact of existing in physical form in time and space requires us to make choices about what to do and who to be every moment of our waking lives here. ...that's plenty!

No I see wholeness as best achieved by embracing the inherent volatility of this universe and learning to focus on who you want to be and how you want to respond to the challenges that the volatility will inevitably throw your way.

And of course it’s good to make use of a mulit-sig setup in these situations cuz you don’t want to give a bank custody of your crypto either.

Here are a list of options:
https://casa.io
https://www.swanbitcoin.com/vault/
https://bitkey.world/

Nah, wholeness > hedonism.

Don’t try to spice things up.

If you’ve been with someone a long time and the “spark” is gone, don’t try to “spice things up”. It will just lead to everyone feeling pressure and frustration.

The “spark” leaves when you’ve grown apart, or become room mates, or when the both of you have just stopped trying. And deciding to do some sexual role play scene with your room mate that you’re just not that into really isn’t going to go well for anyone!

Instead, reconnect. Read a book together. Go out for long walks. Go on a trip together. Get drunk together. When you can actually see that person again, when you remember why you were so into them… that’s where the “spark” lives.