“To blame feminism for the decline of the traditional family is to admit that the old ways relied on women’s oppression to sustain it.”

I have a general policy of calling people out when I hear them say ugly things. And nearly always those people will get angry at me for that and say all sorts of things such as “You’re too sensitive” or “I have free speech” and my favorite, “It’s just a word!”

And yes, they are entirely correct. It’s just a word, and words don’t really matter, it’s just a sound. But, intentions do matter. I don’t care about the word itself, I care about the intention.

“Bitch” is a good example. I will at times call a friend a “crazy bitch”, but in a playful context where it is clear that my intention is joking or even complementary. That same friend may have just yesterday encountered some asshole at a bar that got mad at her when she wasn’t interested in him and called her a “fucking bitch!” In that context it’s clear that his intention was to insult her and to insult her specifically because she is a woman. And this friend is going to respond to these two situations very differently. Same word, very different intentions.

It’s always all about the intention. The same word is a very different thing when used light heartedly vs when used as an insult.

A threat to justice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.

That which can be asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence.

A word is just a sound. It doesn't have any meaning beyond the intention that it was spoken with.

Don't be so sensitive, it's just a joke.

Y’all, I got a great cake recipe! So I don’t eat gluten or dairy and I’m trying to cut back on fat, and yet some how I managed to find a way to make a cake that is actually yummy. And it's got no gluten, no dairy, no oil, and no processed sugar!!! And yes other people in the house besides me will happily eat it!

Here it is, I don’t have the precise measurements cuz I just wing it…

eggs
A splash of water
as many dates as you like to make it as sweet as you like
Apple or banana if you like those flavors
A pinch of baking powder
Cinnamon, if you’re into that

Blend that all up in some sort of machine.

Then the secret ingredient! Tigernut flour!
I put in enough that the blender just starts to struggle. Like just barely not as smooth as before.

Then just in the oven at 350 for 20min!!!

You’re welcome 😁

I have the best friends. They send me shit like this. Pure internet gold.