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Lyn Alden
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I go to NYC several times per year for one reason or another. For work, for friends, etc.

Part of me likes it, but part of me gets fucking frustrated multiple times per day every time I am here. (Sorry, this is a Nostr Lyn post).

There are plenty of neat things in NYC that I can’t do at the same scale/quality elsewhere in the world due to the network effects around the city (broadway shows, financial district, etc), and yet after a day or two all I want to do is leave. It feels claustrophobic on multiple fronts.

People all have different vibes but for me, major cities are fun to visit but smaller secondary cities or suburbs around cities are so much smoother to live in. I can’t imagine living all the time in a major city.

The same applies to Cairo, to which I have been in far more total days than NYC. I like Cairo’s satellite cities but not Cairo itself other than going briefly.

Every time I am in a major city I am immediately reminded of the luxury of space, nature, quiet, parking spaces, and chillness of not being in a city. Everything I take for granted normally is now a luxury to fight for in a city.

Even politics are largely correlated to urbanization. If you live in rural or suburban areas, you likely drive around in your own car, you might have some land, etc. Your interaction with the local government exists in a moderate sense. The potential weakness is that you are more likely to always be around those who are similar to you, which minimizes your worldliness.

In contrast to all that, in major cities, everything is so tightly packed, and people rely on public transportation, and even a momentary lapse of government services (eg trash collection) becomes an acute catastrophe. But on the beneficial side, people are around those who are different than them more often, which breeds worldliness.

That’s why I tend to like the zone between rural and major cities. I like secondary cities or suburbs of major cities, because I get a bit of both worlds. The density and interconnectedness of major cities briefly, and the space and self-autonomy outside of them most of the time.

And yet I was born and raised in that sort of inbetween state, and so maybe it is just my upbringing.

What about you? Can anyone sell me the idea of NYC or other major cities that I am missing, especially in the remote work era? I see glimpses of how it could be attractive if you are used to it and know every detail of your neighborhood, but it really does feel limiting to me.
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Banging · 104w
Just a money pumper , not suitable for living if you’re not in one of those $50 million penthouses lol you’re just a consumer ,New York is hectic and the most expensive place to live I hate it there
Phil · 104w
I love the anonymity of NYC. You can be around 100s, 1000s of people without having to interact. I get so much energy from NYC, more than any other city I’ve ever been to or lived in.
Bitcoin Fortress · 104w
I feel the same. Cities are fun to visit, but I prefer living in the burbs.
Chad Lupkes · 104w
I wonder how having more access to hard money and capital that doesn't erode over time will affect how we live and interact in urban cores like that. It's going to be a long road of recovery from 60+ years of incompetent management of our monetary foundation, but when we start to build anew on top ...
Max Nam-Storm · 104w
Food. . . . 🎤
ew0k · 104w
Living in nyc is very different than visiting. If you have a place and your friends and have learned the ebb and flow of people/commute traffic, you get to know when to go where and really optimize having every part of the day be fun, meaningful, and productive. You also get to be anonymous in the n...
Samm · 104w
I live in a beach town, go to the bigger cities surrounding for events, entertainment, dinner,etc. Nice to visit but not live there. Odd how more bustle and chatter feels closed in compared to the openness of home. Hmmm.
Maria2000 · 104w
Humans were not meant to live in places like nyc, in such tight quarters.
a source familiar with the matter · 104w
those minor cities would have been major cities for most of human history
Maya♨️🫚🥥 · 104w
Oot, but still yeah. For me the availability of wholesome food is, in my opinion, the most crucial aspect of the place in which you live.
PirataCuervo · 104w
Cities are terrible to live in, but nice to visit. Worldliness as the benefit? Big stretch.
cloud fodder · 104w
I've done both a few times, flip flop, right now pretty rural. Upsides and downsides to both. City upsides for me were the public transit or biking/walking almost everywhere (except to leave the city). I could go to a bar and cut loose and not worry about how I'm getting home. Interesting people...
ronniesamuel · 104w
nostr:npub1a2cww4kn9wqte4ry70vyfwqyqvpswksna27rtxd8vty6c74era8sdcw83a unfortunately I am unable to sell you the idea of New York City or other major cities that you’re missing because as it turns out, I’m missing the same thing myself. My mother and I have had this squabble a couple of times. ...
Bitcoin Sikho · 104w
We call big cities: sweet prison You are kinda stuck within this ecosystem that makes you miserable most of the times and it does suck your soul out. Sigh.
mina · 104w
Same boat. People are starting to realize that you can live in rural NJ and be an hour from the city. You go in for the day and come home to 1-2 acres of green, peace and quiet. Remote/hybrid outside a big city is the ideal mix, esp if you have a family/young kids.
GameBoyBTC · 104w
Settlements with the characteristics you liked are closer and of designs more in keeping with the individual. It reminds me of some of the great Jane Jacops' thoughts on urbanism more on a human scale. As a person raised in rural areas I don't like the typical big city settlements. One longs for th...
Justin_Tokyo · 104w
I personally enjoyed my time over there, circa 2003. Maybe this NYC is long gone, but I would create my own personal “Niu Yolk”. From Tribeca to Union Square, drifting in Central Park with my rollerblades. Having a blackout and walk fifth avenue with thousands of people… Great experiences !
AC · 104w
Raised rural, but lived in the suburbs. Suburbs started feeling like the busyness of the city, especially after returning from college. Moved out fairly rural to start a family. Best. Decision. Ever. Best. People. Ever. Currently seeking an even more remote citadel.
Jeff Swann · 104w
Aside from enjoying the water & having some friends that build cars near by, & a couple others that I connect with on certain subjects, there are a lot of differences between me & most small town normies, but I'll take small town normies & lots of breathing room over anything close to city life any ...
xiangcai · 104w
never been in NYC but it sounds like Shanghai
Carl Thornton · 104w
My sister lived there for 25 yrs. I visited often. Our son went to USC. I visited LA often. Live in rural area 3 hrs east of Chicago. 3 hrs west of Detroit. Could be an age thing, but I’m over the traffic, and the decay I’ve seen in large cities in here in the US. Fun - maybe - to visit for a ...
farooq · 104w
There are pros and cons everywhere, so having the ability to travel and live in different places is a bliss because most people can't.
UltraMB · 104w
I can’t sell you on living in the heart of NYC. I myself moved out to Westchester. However, there are parts of NYC that are like suburbs or secondary cities. But would you consider that still living in NYC? For example, Forest Hills, Rockaways, Riverdale. What’s your take on those areas of NYC...
Renovatio · 104w
Totally got you, big fan of NYC-MAD-TYO line but I actually live on a 2nd tier city because all of the advantages you mention. I'm uber cosmopolitan but big cities are great "For visit". The anticipation of the arrival, the things due to do there, and bam, farewell will see you again... Next year. ...
Yooper Hodl · 104w
Basement bars beers are super chill. Just talk and have fun
BTC-Satanist · 104w
I go to Boston regularly for medical care. That place scares me though I grew up on its outskirts and would venture in by myself as young as 12. I don't buy into "worldliness" per se as I grew up in an international cauldron. Even in my hamlet 1 hour from Boston ... I'm in the white minority, its ...
Bayman11771 · 104w
I grew up in New York, and I hate to say it, I can't bear going back. The deterioration really upsets me, seeing places I grew up in reduced to filth and chaos. I still have strong emotional ties to the city, but not strong enough to suspend good sense. Completely random - I found myself in Milwauk...
deleted · 104w
In easy times, big cities are exciting and light hearted. In hard times, big cities dole out an endless supply of ruthless survivaltude expressing itself amongst a crowded, disgruntled people.
₿ennett · 104w
I like the size of austin, has the feel of being in a city with a few sky scrapers, but still small enough to run into people all over town. What’s your favorite secondary cities Lyn?