Because most all of them are honey pots. And there is not an honest developer that makes a good privacy chat. The only way and the gold standard is running your own matrix server.

Add Nostr to the mix and that's at least another 6.

Good lord why would I want to do that

It's pretty much just Facebook messager, that's the one that everyone uses.

Let's create one app to talk to everybody. Result: one more app

Just reduce the number of people you want to chat with to those on NOSTR and the problem is solved

you don't need a chat app if you don't talk to anyone 😂 https://media.tenor.com/QLbV11ltA8cAAAAC/smart-thinking.gif

its so annoying

My country is basically WhatsApp only

Beeper has been trying to unify them all onto a Matrix interface. Cloud or local (I think) https://www.beeper.com/