Being in a strict religious community did not help my older siblings. There was a script that they all attempted to follow with varying degrees of success.
And then a catalyst for major change for us...
But then again, I started to follow the script & fought my way out of that role, so it's not like it *can't* be done, but again...the advantage of feeling unable to ever catch a break as a kid is that it gives you a higher tolerance for social judgment & consequences.
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